Showing posts with label addition. Show all posts
Showing posts with label addition. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Phase II, reading, rambling, reminiscing, and a robbery

Today was the final inspection on my mama's little addition. As of 4:00 this afternoon we were able to start moving her stuff in, and tonight she's sleeping in there.

I don't know how it's going to be once we move more of the furniture from her house in. I wonder if she will stay in that part of the house -- if she'll consider it her own space. I hope so. I know that might make me seem like an ungracious hostess, but I sorta want to be able to preserve some sense of separation. At least while I can. Maybe for the kids' sake as much as mine?

Her bathroom is so nice. Much nicer than any of the others in my house. I'm a little bit jealous, if you want to know the truth. We still need curtains and there's some touch-up painting that needs to be done, but I feel like we've started a new chapter in this story.

Which makes me think of books. Here's what's on the floor by my bedside bookcase right now:
  • Things Unseen by Mark Buchanan --I'm on page 133 and I'm loving it. From the back: "This book is about heaven and yet not. It is about our longing for heaven, our instinct for it. It is about eternity in our hearts. .." I'm having a hard time getting through it, though, because vying for that bedtime reading spot is also
  • Mothering Mother by Carol O'Dell -- a daughter's humorous and heartbreaking memoir. I'm on page 39. I got distracted by
  • The 36-Hour Day by Nancy L. Mace -- a family guide to caring for people with Alzheimers. I made it to page 27 last night before falling asleep. In the stack that I haven't started yet, but have every intention to, is also
  • For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn. I know I'm not, technically, a man, but I thought the first one (For Women Only) was pretty on target, and I'm curious if what they're telling the men about us women is as accurate. I may not get around to it any time soon though, because I probably really really need to read
  • Learning to Speak Alzheimer's by Dr. Robert Butler -- a groundbreaking approach for everyone dealing with the disease
I feel so certain that these books contain helpful information for me, in one way or another. Information I should have -- that would benefit me hugely. It's frustrating that I can't get them all read RIGHT NOW. If I'd go to bed at a more reasonable hour, I might have a better chance of doing more than a half hour of reading before sleep overtakes me. I've tried reading with my eyes shut, and I'm pretty good at it, but I've found the retention rate drops off sharply.

Bedtime's also the time that I journal, and I'm backlogged with that, because I am currently trying to keep three -- one for Lily and Tessa, one for James, and my own. It seemed like a good idea at the time.

Much the way I started keeping a separate photo album for each of my kids when they were tiny. It worked out swell, until I had more than two kids.

It's hard to keep up with recording my life when it's been all I can do just to live it properly. And not always succeed even at that.

I'm a little bit sorry that Brooke left. I think she'll be fine, though. I will buy her album when it's released. I've always been a fan of that genre -- that Carol King/Carly Simon-y vibe.

I've also been a lifelong fan of Neil Diamond. His was the first concert I ever attended, back when we were living in Laramie and he came to the fieldhouse at the University of Wyoming. I was in 8th grade at the time, and I remember it like it was yesterday.

Hang on -- it's a trip in the Way Back Machine.

My bff and soul sister Carree Cunningham and I had huge crushes on him. When I spent the night at her house we would put on "Tap Root Manuscript" and listen to it over and over as we went to sleep. It's really an unusual album -- one side is all African music ("Soolaimon" and "I Am the Lion") and the other side has "Cracklin Rosie" and "He Ain't Heavy He's My Brother." But we loved it. It was one of the greatest joys of my life when I discovered it on iTunes years later. All those good times just came crashing back. And I was in musical, sentimental, bliss.

Anyway, we went to the concert and waited around afterwards hoping against hope to get an autograph. We waited and waited and waited until the place was empty, but he never came out. My parents were frantic, because we hadn't come out of the fieldhouse and they were sure we'd met with foul play, and they should have never let us go alone at such a tender age.

What I did get instead of an autograph was the cup of water he had taken a drink from while he was on stage. I carried it carefully home and poured the water in an empty peanut butter jar. When Carree would come to my house we would take out the jar, think how his mouth had touched the water that was in there, and swoon.

After a while some fuzzy green mold began to grow on the inside of the jar and I had to throw it away, but I've continued to treasure the memory of it in my heart.

So yeah. Neil Diamond week? Two thumbs up for me.

But two thumbs down to the little punks who broke into the locker room. If anyone happens to see a pair of size 12 white Nikes on eBay in the next week or so, please let me know. Garrison had his stolen out of his gym locker at the high school today. He is so upset, because they were new; he bought them (with his own money) in Nashville over spring break. Apparently nothing is sacred.

Which is why-- yearning for heaven? Yes, ma'am I am.

Saturday, March 15, 2008

but I LIKE winter


Look! Look how brave they are. It's fun to see these little harbingers of joy and hope and spring.

We're melting slowly around here. There are still patches of snow, but more and more ground is showing beneath it.

I wish I was as eager to embrace the next season in my life.

The siding is up on the addition, and from the outside it looks like part of the house. They've done a great job matching it to the rest of our house.


Inside it's quite a different picture. This is one of my kitchen windows, and it used to look out at the woods. Now it looks into this.

As the addition nears completion, I'm having to confront the fact that my view of the future has changed just as dramatically as my view out my window. It won't be long until we move my mom into these rooms. She doesn't know it yet, but it has to happen.

I am trying to be brave, like the crocuses. I know it's all for the best. I know it has to happen. I know it's right and proper. I know it will be easier in the long run having my mom living here with us. I'll be able to more closely monitor her activities and her meals, and she'll have company around the clock. As her condition deteriorates, she's going to need hands-on care.

It just seems scary, too, a little, if I'm honest. As often as I tell myself that it's the right move, I find myself asking God if He's sure I'm the right person for the job.

I'm not a patient, compassionate person. I am not a good nurse. It's not in my nature to overlook irritations. I am selfish with my time. I tend to argue more than concede. I like to be in control. I don't like change.

My hubby says that I am going through this precisely to have those characteristics chiseled away. I say I don't want to be chiseled.

Which brings me face to face with the most uncomfortable realization of all -- I am not surrendering to the Master Sculptor. I know that I need to be saying, "Here I am -- I offer myself to You. Mold me, shape me, refine me, make me more like You."

I know that there should be this sense of welcoming what's coming, knowing that I will have the opportunity to lean on Him, depend on Him to get me through the trying times. I know He'll give me the grace and strength I need. But I am not a good leaner. I don't want to lean.

So to say that I'm all conflicted inside would probably be a ginormous understatement.

Monday, February 25, 2008

addition edition

The workmen were out there banging around this afternoon



and I heard a terrific crash in the kitchen. How did this purple glass vase



get shaken out of and fall from this cabinet high above my stove, all the way down to the floor




hitting and denting my tea kettle on the way,



and not break into a thousand hundred pieces? First we had the case of the vanishing scarf, then the inexplicable lady bug appearance, and now inquiring minds want to know the answer to this mystery.


There have been three casualties of the addition that are especially hard for me to bear. One was the loss of my kitchen window pie shelf, which was so handy for storing pots of soup and Christmas cookies in the winter. The second was the thermometer that let me know whether the temperature was below 40 degrees, so that it would be safe to put my pot of soup out there. And the third is my awesome exhaust vent. This thing is like a commercial-grade, industrial-powered super sucking fan that just whooshes everything out. Jim had to re-locate it and it's just not quite the same.



At least my laundry chute isn't in jeopardy yet.